So she said, “See, your sister-in-law has gone back to her people and to her gods; return after your sister-in-law.”
But Ruth said, “Do not press me to leave you
or to turn back from following you!
Where you go, I will go;
where you lodge, I will lodge;
your people shall be my people,
and your God my God.
Where you die, I will die –
there will I be buried.
May the Lord do thus and so to me,
and more as well,
if even death parts me from you!” [Ruth 1.15-17]
A handful of years ago I was at conference with a group of young leaders from the breadth of our Uniting Church. They were a fabulous mix from Gen-Z, representing the diversity of our community and our church, keen to get involved and to lead, to push the edges and to discover where their faith might take them.
We travelled through the story of Ruth, Orpah and their mother-in-law Naomi. This famous passage, often read at weddings, was the focus of one conversation. Following tragedy, Naomi has instructed the two young women to leave; Orpah leaves, Ruth stays.
The speaker asked all the young leaders to sit on the left side of the room if they thought Ruth made the right choice, and on the opposite side, if they agreed with Orpah’s decision.
A number of us were astonished to see that the room of over one hundred young leaders was evenly divided. The ones who sided with Orpah were asked why they had made their particular choice. This group, largely of Pasifika and Korean heritage responded that you obey your elders.
This cultural expectation would also have been true of the world in which Naomi, Ruth and Orpah lived, and the first several generations of those who listened to this story.
The young leaders who supported Ruth were largely of Anglo background; I had always been taught that Ruth made the right choice, and suddenly I needed to rethink both my theology and my assumptions when I speak to people.
Is it possible that those who first heard this were shaking their heads with the same exasperation as those who heard Jesus’ parable of the son who pre-emptively asked for his share of his father’s inheritance and wasted it all in a foreign land?
The difference is prophetic. Ruth acts to serve Naomi’s safety, risking herself with the possibility that two women might shape a future, whereas one widow seems destined for penury.
What does it mean to stand against a cultural assumption, to defy what everyone expects? What does it mean to hope against circumstance, and to chose life, acting in that hope and choice?
How do we speak in our church – our community – when we naïvely expect our cultural expectations to be the same as everyone else, and discover that they are not?
When we offer the gospel; when we stand as advocates; when we look for justice; we need to attend to those we seek to serve, and to understand that service is not control, but offered in humility and hope.
Ruth’s covenant decision is profound, and changes history. May we have her wisdom, her courage, and her love.
